Which stage of understanding are you in ?
Long time back; I noticed that people have a lot of acquaintances and friends perhaps because they do not have any conflicts with them. However;with the passage of time,I grew up and I realized that if people have an opportunity to think, then there will be a difference in opinion. I realize that there is no life without conflicts and conflicts are a mere representations of opportunities in disguise.
The similarity of the view points or the difference between them may appear to be logical or political or whatever depending upon your perspective and there is no criteria that dictates that logic will win but the focus of this post is to talk about the different stages of conflict.
There are four stages of team building that lead to synergy namely forming, storming, norming, and performing.
If you hear someone state that they do not have conflicts in their lives then they are not necessarily lying; what they are really saying is that they are still in the forming stage and have not moved on to the performing stage. My understanding is that storming happens when the relationship sails through the forming stage and witness misunderstandings. If the relationship were to evolve, the misunderstanding clears up during the norming stage and the people involved in the relationship are ready for the take off during the performing stage.
The four stages can also be named as
understanding
misunderstanding
normalized understanding
and better understanding.
So the next time you hear someone say that they hardly have any conflicts , do remember which stage they are in and smile.
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